I am a Freshman now in the University of California, Berkeley or just UC Berkeley, the #1 public university in the world. Heeeeey! Go Bears! I graduated as the Valedictorian of my class last June 2016 and although I am now in college, and I am definitely enjoying my time here as a little adult, I still cannot help but look back sometimes and think about my life couple months ago as a high school student. Looking back, I can still remember those 6 am morning wake up to catch the school bus, those 8 am to 3 pm schedule in school and of course, the most important above all, those high school dramas. And trust me, there are a lot of drama in high school. It sucks. Haha.
Some say high school is just your little bridge to college, to adulthood, the last part of your childhood. I beg to differ. High School taught me a lot of things and it was not just about playing and making friends. It definitely felt like a rollercoaster to me.
I had a lot of ups and downs during those four years of my life despite what others might think.
And although I graduated as the Valedictorian of my class, there were a lot of things that no one told me that I wish I knew.
So let me share with you my top 5 things I wish I knew in high school.
1. What you say to people, even just in passing, really affects people.
OMG! Have you guys seen the new but very popular TV show right now , Thirteen Reasons Why? I have to admit that this TV show is what prompt me into writing this post. In the show, this teenage girl commit suicide after getting bullied by these people in their high school. She left 13 tapes telling people why and her story woven into it. This is not a spoiler! Promise! Actually, this is a book first adapted into a TV show in Netflix because the story is very eyes-opening and honest! Watch it! Anyway, don’t worry guys, I did not bully anyone during my high school years or ever! Bullying is so wrong! And pleeeease, I have better things to do, like snacking. Haha.
But seriously though, high school is such a stressful years for a teenager especially if you don’t have any supportive parents, right friends, and motivations. There is always that expectations to do well because your decisions might as well define the rest of your life. Or at least, the direction of your life. Always be careful on what you say to people. People have enough problems already and your words might be the last things they need.
Anyway, in my case, people asked me what I want to do in my life. As a Valedictorian, I guess people trusted my judgement and decision. Who knows. Anyway, I carelessly said that I want to be a dentist. The next thing I know, people are also trying to be a dentist.
Don’t get me wrong, being a dentist is a good profession. However, those people who carelessly copied my supposed path are hating their lives right now because they hate anything related to dentistry. Oh, boy!
2. Make friends. A LOT of friends.
I am very friendly but I am usually shy in person which makes people think that I’m a snob. I am not! Anyway, I transferred to a California high school during my senior year of high school and it was a big talk in my school because who transfer during their senior year, riiiight?
However, I am lucky to find so many good friends in my new high school. However, I hope someone really encouraged me and pushed me to get out of my shell more often. Maybe that is why I am blogging right now. It’s my practice to look less of a snob.
3. There are a lot of fake people in high school.
This is true! I know we see this in movies and TV shows but there are also fake people in real life, especially in high school! Promise! Okaaaay. Well, I wasn’t really the most popular girl in school but I guess I could be considered as one of the popular people but only because I transferred during my senior year, the new girl and for being the new Valedictorian. Now that I look back, I think some people hated me too for taking their spots. Oh, well.
But seriously though, there are people who wants to be friends with you just for some reasons. Don’t fall for that. Always be a good judge of character and stick with the good ones. Good people would always bring you to good places!
4. There are more things besides ACADEMICS.
I don’t think I was even a nerd. Okay, well maybe I really do care about my grades and education but … Asians. Joke. Anyway, it’s true. I feel like I focused so much in my academics that I did not even do any really fun extracurricular in high school. I mean, of course I was part of all types of National Honor Society, those math, science, history, art, environmental, and diversity club, but I wish I did sports.
I wish I did something silly. Like maybe those face-painting clubs and fashion club cause, you know, why not? Riiight? I think I was so obsess with just building this perfect resume that I forgot to pick an activity just because.
5. Lastly, Don’t Forget To Be Just Who You Are
I feel like we hear this everywhere but I’m not exactly sure if people really follow this fundamental rule. In fact, I think I forgot this during my high school career, especially towards my senior year. With all the excitements of getting into the best school, expectations of what you are going to do, and just the anticipation of people for you. I think I forgot to remember myself.
I tried to get into the top schools and I did get in but those schools were not really my top schools. They were my parents, teachers and friends’ top school. Don’t get me wrong. I love UC Berkeley but it was never my top choice. I picked UC Berkeley because it is definitely a prestigious school.
However, I feel like with all the push and pull from people, I gave in and just always say sure to people.
I wish I knew this. I wish I knew that. I wish I could turn back time and redo it again. People always want another take in life. However, I feel like I would be fine without one. I’m happy on where I am now and what I have. I am who I am because of my decisions and everyday, I am learning something new.