5 Things I Wish I Knew In High School

I am a Freshman now in the University of California, Berkeley or just UC Berkeley, the #1 public university in the world. Heeeeey! Go Bears! I graduated as the Valedictorian of my class last June 2016 and although I am now in college, and I am definitely enjoying my time here as a little adult, I still cannot help but look back sometimes and think about my life couple months ago as a high school student. Looking back, I can still remember those 6 am morning wake up to catch the school bus, those 8 am to 3 pm schedule in school and of course, the most important above all, those high school dramas. And trust me, there are a lot of drama in high school. It sucks. Haha. 

Some say high school is just your little bridge to college, to adulthood, the last part of your childhood. I beg to differ. High School taught me a lot of things and it was not just about playing and making friends. It definitely felt like a rollercoaster to me.

I had a lot of ups and downs during those four years of my life despite what others might think.

And although I graduated as the Valedictorian of my class, there were a lot of things that no one told me that I wish I knew.

So let me share with you my top 5 things I wish I knew in high school.

1. What you say to people, even just in passing, really affects people.

OMG! Have you guys seen the new but very popular TV show right now , Thirteen Reasons Why? I have to admit that this TV show is what prompt me into writing this post. In the show, this teenage girl commit suicide after getting bullied by these people in their high school. She left 13 tapes telling people why and her story woven into it. This is not a spoiler! Promise! Actually, this is a book first adapted into a TV show in Netflix because the story is very eyes-opening and honest! Watch it! Anyway, don’t worry guys, I did not bully anyone during my high school years or ever! Bullying is so wrong! And pleeeease, I have better things to do, like snacking. Haha.

But seriously though, high school is such a stressful years for a teenager especially if you don’t have any supportive parents, right friends, and motivations. There is always that expectations to do well because your decisions might as well define the rest of your life. Or at least, the direction of your life. Always be careful on what you say to people. People have enough problems already and your words might be the last things they need.

Anyway, in my case, people asked me what I want to do in my life. As a Valedictorian, I guess people trusted my judgement and decision. Who knows. Anyway, I carelessly said that I want to be a dentist. The next thing I know, people are also trying to be a dentist.

Don’t get me wrong, being a dentist is a good profession. However, those people who carelessly copied my supposed path are hating their lives right now because they hate anything related to dentistry. Oh, boy!

2. Make friends. A LOT of friends. 

I am very friendly but I am usually shy in person which makes people think that I’m a snob. I am not! Anyway, I transferred to a California high school during my senior year of high school and it was a big talk in my school because who transfer during their senior year, riiiight?

However, I am lucky to find so many good friends in my new high school. However, I hope someone really encouraged me and pushed me to get out of my shell more often. Maybe that is why I am blogging right now. It’s my practice to look less of a snob.

3. There are a lot of fake people in high school. 

This is true! I know we see this in movies and TV shows but there are also fake people in real life, especially in high school! Promise! Okaaaay. Well, I wasn’t really the most popular girl in school but I guess I could be considered as one of the popular people but only because I transferred during  my senior year, the new girl and for being the new Valedictorian. Now that I look back, I think some people hated me too for taking their spots. Oh, well.

But seriously though, there are people who wants to be friends with you just for some reasons. Don’t fall for that. Always be a good judge of character and stick with the good ones. Good people would always bring you to good places!

4. There are more things besides ACADEMICS. 

I don’t think I was even a nerd. Okay, well maybe I really do care about my grades and education but … Asians. Joke. Anyway, it’s true. I feel like I focused so much in my academics that I did not even do any really fun extracurricular in high school. I mean, of course I was part of all types of National Honor Society, those math, science, history, art, environmental, and diversity club, but I wish I did sports.

I wish I did something silly. Like maybe those face-painting clubs and fashion club cause, you know, why not? Riiight? I think I was so obsess with just building this perfect resume that I forgot to pick an activity just because.

5. Lastly, Don’t Forget To Be Just Who You Are

I feel like we hear this everywhere but I’m not exactly sure if people really follow this fundamental rule. In fact, I think I forgot this during my high school career, especially towards my senior year. With all the excitements of getting into the best school, expectations of what you are going to do, and just the anticipation of people for you. I think I forgot to remember myself.

I tried to get into the top schools and I did get in but those schools were not really my top schools. They were my parents, teachers and friends’ top school. Don’t get me wrong. I love UC Berkeley but it was never my top choice. I picked UC Berkeley because it is definitely a prestigious school.

However, I feel like with all the push and pull from people, I gave in and just always say sure to people.

I wish I knew this. I wish I knew that. I wish I could turn back time and redo it again. People always want another take in life. However, I feel like I would be fine without one. I’m happy on where I am now and what I have. I am who I am because of my decisions and everyday, I am learning something new.

Happy Thursday!





  1. April 14, 2017 / 1:00 am

    Good Job Chy! It reminds me of my High School days too…….Funny enough you gonna need all of them lessons in college and in life generally. For me the key is to “be yourself”…. anyway, thanks for sharing

    • April 16, 2017 / 5:05 pm

      Thank you so much, Sandra! Have you entered my monthly giveaway! It is ending soon! Hope to hear from you! New post is also up! Happy Easter! XOXO https://herlostmango.com

  2. April 14, 2017 / 2:07 am

    I´m very impressed about your reflections. It was a pleasure to read this post of yours. Have a good time at Berkeley and keep on how you are. Finally let me tell you a quote of Albert Einstein: It´s important never to stop asking.
    Love Reni

    • April 16, 2017 / 5:04 pm

      Thank you so much! New post is up and have you entered my monthly giveaway? 🙂 It is ending soon! Happy Easter too! Hope to hear from you soon! XOXO https://herlostmango.com

  3. April 14, 2017 / 2:54 am

    Congrats on becoming Valedictorian of your class in high school. It is a big achievement and milestone. Sounds like you are already settling well into college. Good luck. I remember my days in college were a lot of study, though 😀

    • April 16, 2017 / 5:03 pm

      Aw. Maybel! Are you entered in my monthly giveaway! It’s ending soon! Hope to excited! Thank you so much! What did you study in college and where did you go? New post is up. Hope you are doing well! XOXO

      • April 18, 2017 / 6:31 am

        I studied arts and maths in college. Quite a bit of things I studied 😀

  4. April 14, 2017 / 2:55 am

    Congratulations and goodluc as you venture out into college …

  5. April 14, 2017 / 4:27 am

    i love all your thoughts and they are very inspiring for young women especially, pretty and smart – lovely niece I have indeed!

    • April 16, 2017 / 4:57 pm

      Thank you so much! NEW post is up and Happy Easter! Did you do anything nice? Hope you are doing well! XOXO

      • April 16, 2017 / 9:26 pm

        Had a lovely Easter weekend my family come here to Malaysia from Philippines so it was a big gathering. Lots of food and laughter. Happy Easter to you too! Ok I will check out your post tonight sweet pea! Did you enjoy your Easter?

        • April 16, 2017 / 9:51 pm

          I was not able to go home to my house to see my family because of a lot of college work. It’s alright though. Nothing very special. You definitely have better Easter than me. Haha. Hope you are doing well, Auntie! XOXO https://herlostmango.com

          • April 16, 2017 / 9:56 pm

            oh that was too bad, but I am sure you were not alone or sad, you are always a ray of sunshine to me! I am doing great really, had a really nice weekend.

          • April 17, 2017 / 7:31 pm

            No, I celebrated it with my friends! I just posted my Pisa, Italy trip, Auntie. I hope you are doing well and enjoy the pictures! Love, your niece! XOXO https://herlostmango.com

          • April 18, 2017 / 4:56 am

            ok going to check it out now sweet girl!

  6. April 14, 2017 / 6:11 am

    I love that 13 Reasons Why inspired this post! You can some really great advice and a great message xx.

    • April 16, 2017 / 4:52 pm

      I am so into 13 reasons why! Have you watched it! Such a good adaptation! New post is up and my giveaway is ending soon! I ‘m so excited to announce the winner! Happy easter girl! XOXO

      • April 16, 2017 / 7:18 pm

        Yes! I binged watched it in three days! Happy Easter to you too xx.

  7. April 14, 2017 / 10:04 am

    This is a great post, I had no idea you went to Cal Berkeley! Such a great school and pretty close to my hometown! Go Bears!

    • April 16, 2017 / 4:51 pm

      Yes! I go to UC Berkeley ! I am a freshman! Where do you go? Go bears! New post is up and Happy Easter! XOXO

      • April 16, 2017 / 5:59 pm

        I’m from Davis! I’m still in high school, but go Aggies!

    • April 16, 2017 / 4:46 pm

      Aw! Thank you so much, Subomi. New post is up! Happy Easter girl! Also, have you entered my giveaway? It’s a $5o giveaway! So excited! Hope to hear from you soon! XOXO https://herlostmango.com

  8. April 15, 2017 / 9:22 am

    I’ve been a high school graduate for 2 years now, just one year ahead of you, and I have another lesson to add to ur list! And that is, DON’T waste your time on boys, and don’t focus so much on your high school relationship that you just drop hanging out with your friends or stop your extracurriculars because one day you and your high school sweetheart are going to break up and years later you’ll see on FB that he got married and he is living the life you dreamed of having together with someone else! I was with my highschool boyfriend for over two years while we were in school together, and I was more focused on spending time with him after school than having girlfriends that I could hang out with instead. I missed out on so much because of that, and never really got the chance to make real girlfriends that I could chill and gossip with and all that girly blahh. Boys at that age aren’t worth the time anyway, because they’re not worried about the big picture, and you really want to find your own place in the world before you decide to find a guy that you can share that place with, ya know? Just save yourself the heartbreak, and don’t take the guys or highschool relationships too seriously, because it is just a seriously painful waste of time!

    • April 16, 2017 / 4:46 pm

      I agree, focus more on yourself and in your education! Very insightful words, lexi! I just posted something new. Happy Easter! Also, have you entered my giveaway? It’s a $5o giveaway! So excited! Hope to hear from you soon! XOXO https://herlostmango.com

  9. April 16, 2017 / 12:23 pm

    There is much truth in those 5 points. Friendships are so important. Many do drift apart as “life’ gets in the way, but I still do have some friendships that go back to my high school days which BTW is 40+ years ago. I treasure those! 🙂

    • April 16, 2017 / 5:07 pm

      I love my friends and hope to have them for the rest of my life. How are you doing? New post is up on the blog. Happy Easter! Also, have you entered my giveaway already? It’s a monthly $50 giveaway here on my blog! Hope to hear from you soon! XOXO 🙂

  10. September 15, 2017 / 11:30 pm

    This is a wonderful story, with great photos as usual.

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